Amanda | lionthelabel


⭒ AMANDA @mand_


𝐉𝐨𝐲𝐬/𝐝𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 🌞
For me, I’ve taken great pleasure in growing into new dynamics in my relationships – becoming closer with my mother who is a legitimate angel on earth and connecting on a new level with my best friend and having the opportunity for our kids to grow up with each other.
Watching how my son processes new experiences – a new sensation on his skin, a new taste, how buttons work, climbing up stairs. He has surprised me with how much information a baby soaks up, and he makes me proud when saying a new word or copying dance actions from a nursery rhyme. He has some serious moves!
I love his infectious laugh and personality, his big heart and how he makes me excited for our adventures to come.

𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬 👣
For me, I am challenged by the idea of ‘trying to do it all’. I want to be as available to my son as possible, but I also want to re-establish a career and a meaningful social life with family and friends. There aren’t enough hours in the day to be everything for everyone all of the time – and that is ok. I am learning to let things go, with exception, and that ultimately the health and wellbeing of myself and my family will always come first.

𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 🏖
I’d love to say that making non-negotiable time for myself is a regular occurrence, but there’s always something that pops up! That’s life, I guess. When I’ve been able to, and with the support from my mum and partner, I’ve enjoyed a solo trip to the movies or getting a massage.
Music has also been a great therapist – I enjoy popping my headphones in and listening to music on my commute to work or while on a lunchbreak.

𝐀𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞 💭

Several pieces, I guess:

Be mindful of social media: I found it particularly helpful to delete social media apps when I was in the fourth trimester. Adjusting to life with a newborn, discovering who I was and healing from childbirth was really difficult on little-to-no sleep. I found that posts on social media often hit a nerve with new mums being portrayed as having their sh*t together; beautifully cleaned homes, manicured hands and perfect hair, angelic sleeping babies and not one sign of a struggle.

At the time I found this harmful to my recovery and my own becoming, as I assumed that I was doing something wrong. Why didn’t I look like that? She managed to shower AND wash her hair? How are her clothes so clean? What am I doing wrong?

Once I was ready to be online again, I made a concerted effort to find accounts that more aligned with my lived experiences and that showed content that I was interested in. Sure, I’ll see the same sort of posts as before, but I am quick to think ‘how many pics did it take to get that shot?!’ – I look at things with a bit of a different lens now.

(NB, all the power to the women and families that can manage to deal with any stage of parenthood looking amazing and having their sh*t together!
I learnt that it is up to me to identify and manage my triggers – I identified that these posts were at the time not conducive to my mental health, so I did something about it.

trust yourself: I was always so mindful of what others might think of me and my adjustment to motherhood that I unfortunately did not live in the moment as much as I could have. I often look at photos of my son when he was only weeks or months old, and I can’t even put myself back in that moment. That time was all a blur with my brain running a million miles an hour: what did I have to do, what food did I need to get from the shops? Should he be asleep by now? What is this new development? Have I taken the rubbish out? Where is my birth certificate?

“It’s hard. Someone is always going to have an opinion about what you are, or are not, doing; learn to trust yourself – unapologetically. You are more capable of doing this than you might think.

…and don’t be afraid to remove toxic people from your life. It will make all the difference to your headspace, which ultimately has a flow on effect to those who need you.”

A Mother’s Voice” is a space to acknowledge, celebrate and most importantly, validate each woman’s experience in motherhood.

Though similar in many aspects, each woman’s motherhood journey is unique and different🌻

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